​You have 2 babies

Baby A has 2 college educated parents who read to the baby every night. He is nurtured, loved, & talked to every night. He spends 6 hours a day in a quality child care facility with lots of engagement. He goes on play dates with other babies his age on a regular basis and practices his speech & motor skills.

Baby B is born to a single mother. Mom graduated high school but is not able to pursue any college education at this time, though She would like to. She works 3 jobs to keep the child fed & clothed and is exhausted by the time she comes home and only interacts with the baby during dinner & bath time. She would love to read to the child but she is often exhausted & does not have extra money to buy learning toys/books. The baby spends most of the day with an elderly grandmother and has little social interaction with other children his age.

Both Baby A & Baby B grow up to be successful lawyers with proud parents.

However, Baby A had the financial support of his parents every step of the way, college is paid for by his parents, & things have been relatively smooth sailing. When he struggled in school, he was able to get tutors and additional help. He has no trouble navigating law circles and gaining top clients. He is on track to become partner in 5 years.

Baby B has a mountain of student loan debt and has had adversity all along the way. At times he needed tutors for subjects he struggled in but he couldn’t afford one so he managed his way through. He has had trouble breaking the barrier in certain law circles but is determined to continue his success. Though he has a plethora of new clients, he wishes he could grab some bigger more high profile cases but is often overlooked at his firm. He would love to become partner but there seems to be a hierarchy that he is not a part of yet.

Moral of the story: The end results may be similar, but the paths are very different.